V dob\u011b, kdy je \u201ev\u00edt\u011bzstv\u00ed\u201c \u010dasto prezentov\u00e1no jako jedin\u00e1 hodnota hodn\u00e1 n\u00e1sledov\u00e1n\u00ed, se pomalu vytr\u00e1c\u00ed schopnost p\u0159ijmout prohru jako sou\u010d\u00e1st hry, \u017eivota, i ka\u017edodenn\u00edch interakc\u00ed. Prohr\u00e1vat u\u017e neum\u00edme \u2013 a kdy\u017e ano, obvykle to doprov\u00e1z\u00ed frustrace, pop\u00edr\u00e1n\u00ed, v\u00fdmluvy nebo tich\u00e1 rezignace. Co se stalo s d\u016fstojnou prohrou, kter\u00e1 nezanech\u00e1v\u00e1 pachu\u0165 por\u00e1\u017eky, ale prostor k r\u016fstu?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Schopnost p\u0159ijmout por\u00e1\u017eku je p\u0159itom jedn\u00edm z nejz\u00e1sadn\u011bj\u0161\u00edch stavebn\u00edch kamen\u016f du\u0161evn\u00ed odolnosti. P\u0159esto jsme si za posledn\u00ed dv\u011b dek\u00e1dy zvykli, \u017ee prohr\u00e1t \u201ese nehod\u00ed\u201c. A \u017ee kdo nevyhr\u00e1v\u00e1, ten ztr\u00e1c\u00ed \u010das. Vznik\u00e1 tak kulturn\u00ed prost\u0159ed\u00ed, kter\u00e9 zv\u00fdhod\u0148uje jednor\u00e1zov\u00e9 triumfy a z\u00e1rove\u0148 vyt\u011bs\u0148uje dlouhodob\u00fd v\u00fdvoj, proces u\u010den\u00ed a sebepozn\u00e1n\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
D\u011bti v\u00edt\u011bzstv\u00ed \u2013 jak vyr\u016fst s iluz\u00ed, \u017ee prohra nen\u00ed mo\u017enost<\/strong> P\u0159esah je vid\u011bt v pracovn\u00edch kolektivech, ve vztaz\u00edch i v online prost\u0159ed\u00ed. Konstruktivn\u00ed zp\u011btn\u00e1 vazba je zam\u011b\u0148ov\u00e1na za \u00fatok, n\u00e1zorov\u00fd nesouhlas za ohro\u017een\u00ed identity. Prohry (a\u0165 u\u017e jsou to ne\u00fasp\u011b\u0161n\u00e9 pracovn\u00ed pohovory, rozpad p\u0159\u00e1telstv\u00ed nebo neschv\u00e1len\u00fd projekt) nejsou vn\u00edm\u00e1ny jako zku\u0161enost, ale jako osobn\u00ed selh\u00e1n\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Kult sout\u011b\u017een\u00ed a glorifikace \u00fasp\u011bchu<\/strong> U\u017e se tolik nehraje \u201ejen tak\u201c \u2013 ka\u017ed\u00fd z\u00e1pas v online hr\u00e1ch, ka\u017ed\u00e9 v\u00fdb\u011brov\u00e9 \u0159\u00edzen\u00ed, ka\u017ed\u00fd start-up se okam\u017eit\u011b polarizuje do v\u00edt\u011bz\u016f a pora\u017een\u00fdch. Chyb\u00ed prost\u0159ed\u00ed pro \u201ebezpe\u010dn\u00e9 selh\u00e1n\u00ed\u201c. A t\u00edm p\u00e1dem i prostor, kde by bylo mo\u017en\u00e9 se nau\u010dit prohr\u00e1vat se ct\u00ed a s v\u011bdom\u00edm vlastn\u00ed hodnoty.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Psychologie prohry \u2013 pro\u010d bol\u00ed v\u00edc ne\u017e d\u0159\u00edv<\/strong> Psychologov\u00e9 upozor\u0148uj\u00ed, \u017ee potla\u010dovan\u00e1 frustrace z ne\u00fasp\u011bchu m\u016f\u017ee p\u0159er\u016fst v \u00fazkosti, soci\u00e1ln\u00ed fobie nebo agresivitu. \u010clov\u011bk, kter\u00fd nikdy nenau\u010dil svou mysl p\u0159ijmout por\u00e1\u017eku jako \u201en\u011bco, co se prost\u011b d\u011bje\u201c, ztr\u00e1c\u00ed flexibilitu i ochotu zkou\u0161et znovu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n N\u00e1vrat k dovednosti, kter\u00e1 nen\u00ed slabost\u00ed<\/strong> Za\u010d\u00edt se d\u00e1 drobnostmi: nechat n\u011bkoho jin\u00e9ho vyhr\u00e1t v debat\u011b, nenechat se paralyzovat ne\u00fasp\u011bchem v pr\u00e1ci, p\u0159ijmout odm\u00edtnut\u00ed bez ho\u0159kosti. Prohra je mo\u017en\u00e1 ten nejp\u0159irozen\u011bj\u0161\u00ed lidsk\u00fd z\u00e1\u017eitek \u2013 paradoxn\u011b pr\u00e1v\u011b proto, \u017ee ji nikdo nechce. A mo\u017en\u00e1 je to pr\u00e1v\u011b ona, kdo n\u00e1s u\u010d\u00ed b\u00fdt celistv\u00ed. Bez pot\u0159eby b\u00fdt po\u0159\u00e1d naho\u0159e.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" V dob\u011b, kdy je \u201ev\u00edt\u011bzstv\u00ed\u201c \u010dasto prezentov\u00e1no jako jedin\u00e1 hodnota hodn\u00e1 n\u00e1sledov\u00e1n\u00ed, se pomalu vytr\u00e1c\u00ed schopnost p\u0159ijmout prohru jako sou\u010d\u00e1st hry, \u017eivota, i ka\u017edodenn\u00edch interakc\u00ed. Prohr\u00e1vat u\u017e neum\u00edme \u2013 a…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":884,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_lmt_disableupdate":"","_lmt_disable":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-883","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-lifestyle"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/wwt.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/883","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/wwt.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/wwt.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wwt.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wwt.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=883"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/wwt.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/883\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wwt.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/884"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/wwt.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=883"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wwt.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=883"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wwt.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=883"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
Mnoz\u00ed dne\u0161n\u00ed t\u0159ic\u00e1tn\u00edci a mlad\u0161\u00ed vyr\u016fstali v prost\u0159ed\u00ed, kde byli odm\u011b\u0148ov\u00e1ni za \u00fa\u010dast, nikoliv za v\u00fdsledek. Samo o sob\u011b to nen\u00ed \u0161patn\u011b \u2013 probl\u00e9m ale nast\u00e1v\u00e1, kdy\u017e takov\u00e1 v\u00fdchova nevede k pochopen\u00ed cel\u00e9ho spektra emoc\u00ed, kter\u00e9 \u017eivot p\u0159in\u00e1\u0161\u00ed. Kdy\u017e se z v\u00fdhry stane norm\u00e1l a z prohry katastrofa.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ve sv\u011bt\u011b, kde ka\u017ed\u00fd m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt \u201en\u011bk\u00fdm\u201c, se \u00fasp\u011bch stal m\u011b\u0159\u00edtkem hodnoty. Soci\u00e1ln\u00ed s\u00edt\u011b umoc\u0148uj\u00ed pot\u0159ebu vypadat jako v\u00edt\u011bz i ve chv\u00edli, kdy se \u010dlov\u011bk c\u00edt\u00ed na dn\u011b. Vyhr\u00e1vat nesta\u010d\u00ed \u2013 je pot\u0159eba to tak\u00e9 viditeln\u011b dok\u00e1zat. Nevyhr\u00e1t znamen\u00e1 b\u00fdt neviditeln\u00fd. Takov\u00e9 prost\u0159ed\u00ed generuje tlak, kter\u00fd nep\u0159eje riziku, pokusu ani u\u010den\u00ed se chybou.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Prohra v sob\u011b nese prvek nejistoty, kterou dne\u0161n\u00ed spole\u010dnost pova\u017euje za slabost. P\u0159itom schopnost \u010delit nejistot\u011b je kl\u00ed\u010dovou dovednost\u00ed pro du\u0161evn\u00ed zdrav\u00ed. Kdy\u017e n\u011bkdo vyhraje, dostane potvrzen\u00ed. Kdy\u017e prohraje, m\u016f\u017ee si p\u0159ipadat neviditeln\u00fd. Pr\u00e1v\u011b tato neviditelnost je dnes vn\u00edm\u00e1na jako v\u011bt\u0161\u00ed hrozba ne\u017e samotn\u00e9 selh\u00e1n\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nen\u00ed t\u0159eba hledat romantickou nostalgii po \u201e\u010dasech, kdy se lid\u00e9 um\u011bli sm\u00ed\u0159it s prohrou\u201c. Sp\u00ed\u0161 je na m\u00edst\u011b p\u0159iznat, \u017ee ztr\u00e1ta t\u00e9to dovednosti n\u00e1m komplikuje \u017eivot v\u00edc, ne\u017e jsme ochotni p\u0159iznat. Nau\u010dit se znovu prohr\u00e1vat neznamen\u00e1 vzd\u00e1vat se, ale ch\u00e1pat v\u00fdsledek jako jednu ze sou\u010d\u00e1st\u00ed celku \u2013 procesu, kter\u00fd m\u00e1 cenu s\u00e1m o sob\u011b.<\/p>\n\n\n\n